tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-45429006647996357652024-02-21T00:09:32.743-08:00A Balancing ActLife is one great balancing act, between relationships, whether it's with God, others, or food. This was started to remind me of the balances I learn along the way.Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-7149629946522948492018-03-07T12:33:00.002-08:002018-03-07T12:42:10.499-08:00Accepting.<div class="" data-block="true" data-editor="3dv4n" data-offset-key="bcjj9-0-0" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; white-space: pre-wrap;">
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I've come to realize there is a big difference between accepting help and TRULY ACCEPTING HELP. I feel that truly accepting help means laying your pride and guilt at the door. TRULY accepting help is simply being thankful, knowing that there are zero expectations or strings attached to the offers of love. I have had a hard time feeling like I should be puking every moment of someone being here. Or that I should feel worse asking someone to wipe a fridge, when I am standing there showing them the rags and fridge. Nausea is a constant companion, as is exhaustion, but it doesn't feel like enough of a reason to be asking for help.
God has been really working on my heart during this pregnancy. I didn't think another baby would be His vessel to deal with my pride and guilt (usually those two working in tandem), but it is--and there will probably be another vessel another time to deal with them again.
See, I think...I think that accepting help isn't because you deserve it--either with how horrible you feel or don't feel. Accepting help is God asking you to be a Mary. Many of us know the Bible story, the one so many Bible studies are based on, "Being a Mary in a Martha World", that sort of thing. For those of you that don't here's a recap. Mary and Martha were sisters, close friends of Jesus, who were preparing for His arrival. Martha kept working while Mary just went to sit with her Friend and Savior. Martha was unhappy doing everything herself and was essentially upset at Mary. Jesus gently rebuked Martha, telling her that only ONE thing was TRULY needed, and that Mary had chosen the better choice.
I think, on some levels, we are all "Martha's" and feel like we NEED to be "Mary's". Someday, I desperately want to know how Mary and Martha truly were. I don't see Mary as being uncaring and unhelpful, but rather, beautifully distracted by the inane and constant responsibilities of this world, to bask in the restfulness and peace that her Friend offered. In just the same manner, I don't see Martha as a task master, nor necessarily as someone who wanted everything done just right, but rather, something done to perfection for HER Friend as well. I have often thought of Martha and Mary and who they truly were. I think both trying to please their friend, the best way they knew how.
Which leads me back to this current aspect of my life. I've taken on the role of doing everything, getting everything ready, and what not, simply because I have to, and even, on some level WANT to. I love providing meals and cleanliness for our home for our family. I may not like doing it, but I love the end result. I love doing my best for my family. I think, I have been too caught up in it for so long now. I think that God has been trying to lay on my heart to ask and accept help because HE has me and my family provided for. More importantly, He has HIS family provided for. For so long, I felt like a Martha, working behind the scenes, offering my best, while trying to not hold onto any grumbling.
And all the while, He has been trying to teach me to be a Mary. There is a season to be a Martha, and there is a season to be a Mary. We can offer our best, and still need to remember what is most important.
So, here's to choosing to be a Mary right now--or at least who I envision her to truly be. I think of Mary at just being so amazed and restful in Jesus's presence, that all else faded away. Not because she was unaware of anything to do, not because she was immature and didn't want to help, and not because she was shirking responsibilities, but because everything else had grown strangely dim when she entered His presence.
There will be a time to be a Martha, and to choose to give my best behind the scenes, and to do menial tasks, making sure everything is taken care of for people who are here.
But for now, I have got to learn to be a Mary and just sit at my Lord's feet and trust Him that everything will be taken care of. And maybe, just maybe, in this season of sickness and busyness, God's wanting me to come sit by Him, and maybe, just maybe, He wants my company too...
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-41313530414010413052018-03-05T11:27:00.001-08:002018-03-05T11:33:01.690-08:00Barren Wasteland, Abundant Harvest. A friend texted me today about how having kids has been easy, yet she would never say those words to someone struggling with infertility. We then chatted about how each side has its own hardships.<br />
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You see friends, I have been in the barren wasteland of motherhood. Not nearly as long as others, but also much longer than I ever thought would be. I have 3 babies whom I will not know what they look like until I reach the wonderful presence of my Savior in Heaven. 3 babies that sit on the Utmost's lap, instead of my own. Those days, weeks, months, and even years were debilitating for me. Heart-wrenching. The amount of yearning and longing cannot be put into words, nor put into some sense of measurement. Bitterness, anger, frustration, faithlessness, and hopelessness lay in wait of every day for me. By the grace of God, before we had our first child, many of those were dealt with, some were not.<br />
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Fast forward to now. I have a 3 year old, 2 year old, 1 year old, and another baby on the way. That's right. Our family will have upgraded from 3 under 3, to 4, 4 and under. I sit many days and reflect over the last few years. Not only the blessings wrought from each baby, but also...the hardships. </div>
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When our first (Addie) was born, we were ecstatic. She was really quite a hard baby for the first few months, and although feelings of frustration and even anger came to the surface often, they were held in check by the 3 miscarriages and 2 years of infertility prior to her. For she was HERE, in MY arms, every crying and screaming fit seemed mostly dull in comparison and I was THANKFUL, ever so thankful for her.</div>
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Five months after she was born, I remember finding out that I was pregnant again! I was...shocked? Happy? Scared? Honestly, I was mostly just bewildered. The day before we found out, my husband said "You know, we could have another one and I'd be fine." The day we DID find out his response was, "Okay, when I said we could have another one, I didn't mean right NOW!". It was kind of funny, but after Addie, we had opted to not do anything contraception wise because of how difficult it was to have her here, in our arms. So, we knew this was a possibility, but we were also surprised. Clara was born late December, and we were so happy and relieved to have another baby here, safe and sound. Sadly, I did nothing to prepare us as a family (outside of making meals) for having 2 under 2 (Addie was just over a year old), and realistically, other than simply teaching Addie to wait for things for me to help her with, there wasn't much I could have done. Recovery with Clara was hard. Looking back, I did have a mild case of postpartum depression. I wasn't happy she was here. Some days I looked at her and didn't want her here. The amount of heartbreak and guilt at that admission was staggering. I tried to do normal stuff, be normal, but there was a chunk of my emotions that were so off, coupled with adrenal fatigue that left me...weary. She was admitted to the hospital when she was just over ten weeks old for RSV and truly, that experience was harrowing. RSV is extremely treatable, but having my young daughter be in there for over 5 days made me really come face to face with what was happening to me. Many long hours were spent praying and trying to regain the same love I had when Addie was born. Thankfully, shortly thereafter, it was restored. I even found a size up of Clara's coming home outfit as kind of a second chance for me and her.<br />
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Three weeks after the RSV hospital stay with Clara, we found out we were pregnant AGAIN! I will be honest. Staring at the test, the first thought that went through my mind was an unsavory phrase. I was kind of in shock and denial for a few days (maybe weeks, I can't really remember). I didn't quite know what to do other than to pray ridiculously hard against the battle of post partum depression when this baby came. Other than making our kids wait, and do the normal baby prep things, I didn't do much. Being in baby mode for 3 years didn't really require much work on this end. By the time Ezekiel came into our arms, it was a HUGE relief (a 9 pound, 9 oz baby delivered without an epidural will do that to do, trust me). Recovery was easy. I was happy he was here. Sure things were busy and scary and overwhelming, but there was not an OUNCE of resentment. Ezekiel's pregnancy and birth were difficult on my body, and my husband and I were really hoping to not have any more biological kids, and to adopt instead.<br />
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We started the adoption process, a few months ago, only to find out that we were pregnant again. I cried. I honestly did. I didn't WANT to be pregnant again. I wanted another baby, but not this way. The first weeks of this pregnancy have been difficult to muddle through. Not only realizing how fickle I am, but also how my definition of "trust" had to be redefined and brought alongside with what God's word says it is as well. Spiritually, it was difficult for me because I didn't think that God would ask this of me again--but He did. It was difficult to wrap my head around being pregnant again. I was just getting to the point of being at the health and size I wanted to be. I finally felt that I had my thyroid diet under control. This was going to be the year I did stuff with my kids for FUN. It seemed in a moment, every one of those selfish thoughts were asked to be given into the palms of His hands. On top of all the physical ailments, fears of how my thyroid would affect this baby, emotional guilt, this has been very hard.<br />
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You see friends, I have been through the barren wasteland of motherhood, but I have also been through the abundant harvest of motherhood. Neither one is without their own challenges, their own aches, their own frustrations, or their own longings. Both aspects of the vastly different sides are equally challenging in wildly different aspects. I would never brag about how easy it has been to have kids after our bout of death and infertility. Nor would I tell a mom who has so many kids that it's better than having none. Like many things in life, there is a delicate balance.<br />
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You see, while I have been in what my husband and I call "The Baby Season", I have had some pretty...hard thoughts. A constant companion of mine has been guilt. When it was in the barren season, guilt over being bitter and angry consumed me. During the 3 under 3 years, it was guilt over those who wanted children and couldn't. I felt so undeserving--especially since many of my thoughts were not in line with children being a gift. Now, guilt is my companion with not being able to do what a mom and a wife should do. Guilt follows me when I lay down and when someone brings us lunch, supper, runs errands, or cleans my home for me. Guilt. Guilt. Guilt.<br />
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I want to encourage you moms--whatever season you are in. The ONLY thing I have learned, is that the only thing we can do is CLING to God--and I do mean CLING. Grasp for Him. Hold onto Him. He can take the heartache and pain and create from it beauty and life. He can take the resentment and bitterness and make it into thankfulness and peace. he can take the depression and make it joyful. He can take the overwhelmed and exhaustion, and make it restful. He can even take the guilt and make it blissful innocence. Whatever your shackles, whatever your binds, cling to God in them and He can create so much more than you could ever imagine.<br />
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I still struggle. I still fail. And like I said, guilt is my constant companion. I feel unworthy of people loving us and providing for us. Please don't feel like this. There is a beautiful network integrated into the body of Christ, people hearing God's call and helping whenever or wherever they can. Tap into it, for whatever your needs are, big or small. I have seen God just love on us through people and I am nothing short of humbled, completely and overwhelmingly humbled. So peace, mama, peace. He's got you whether you are in the barren wasteland of miscarriages and infertility, and He has what you need in what might seem to be the never-ending harvest of motherhood. Lay down your pride, trust Him and watch yourself be humbled and amazed at how He takes care of you. </div>
Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-23873459740077632462018-02-09T13:40:00.004-08:002018-02-09T13:54:17.995-08:00Trust Him. <span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">As many of you know, we are now expecting our fourth little hobbit. Many have asked me how I am feeling about it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">For one, my morning sickness is extremely severe with this lil' hobbit. I am talking about once an hour I heave for a good 5-10 minutes, and I at least throw up 3-4 times a day. Plus headaches and terrible terrifying dreams that keep me awake (two symptoms I have had with all three pregnancies). This is hard physically.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">Because of this, I have become little more than just a person laying on the couch. This means my house is a mess, food rests (mostly) squarely on Simeon's shoulders, and my kids are divided between levels of the house so we can "divide and conquer". Protein and Back Alley Sourdough is about all I can stomach most days, and like the last 6 pregnancies I have had, nothing helps. I more than not feel like a worthless mom, wife, homemaker...everything. Many things I had hoped for this coming year are coming to/have come to a screeching halt. Trips planned, goals hoped for--pretty much done. Not because we CAN'T do them, but because we don't know if we will be ABLE to do them. This is hard emotionally. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;">I recently found out that my thyroid issues could cause some major complications in pregnancy, including <span style="font-family: "times" , "times new roman" , serif;"><span style="color: #263238;">premature birth, preeclampsia, miscarriage, postpartum hemorrhage, anemia and placental abruption. This scares me and the guilt of this happening and me being responsible/irresponsible is overwhelming. My levels need to be at TSH .4 and they are at .04. That is a big difference. (Also, is a reason for my severe morning sickness). My doctor is great and will be monitoring my levels, and although I would love to deal with this naturally, time constraints do not really allow for that sort of experimentation. On top of realizing how fickle I am ("I want babies!"; "I don't want anymore!"), and my wrong view of trusting God, the guilt and spiritual strain is quickly becoming overwhelming. I feel as if I put all of my trust in His hands, but subconsciously/inherently think that because 100% of it is in His hands, that He won't really "test" (this is not the right word, but it's the only one I can think of at the moment) me on that trust.<br /><br />Now, again, don't get me wrong. I am not trying to whine, nor am I unthankful for this baby, and by oh golly do Simeon and I want another one. I can't tell you how many times we both look at all three of our kids and say "wait...who's missing?" only to realize that no one was (until now of course). We certainly weren't thinking/hoping that this was the course that God had for us, as we were actively pursuing adoption (again). Again, this was where I have had to come face to face with how I define "trusting God".<br /><br />All this being said, Simeon and I would dearly covet your prayers for a healthy pregnancy and baby. Encouragement for a seemingly failing mom and wife. As well as names for house cleaners and even possibly a babysitter available during the day that could come to our home while I am here. Thank you for understanding this and reading this. I try to be vulnerable, but sometimes come out whiny. </span></span></span></div>
Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-9552058093337666882017-07-17T14:43:00.000-07:002017-07-17T14:46:24.109-07:00To the Woman...To the woman who is waiting on a child to call her own someday:<br />
<i>Draw as close to your Savior and Creator as possible. Motherhood is no joke. You will need the strength of that relationship, the one you cultivated with a broken heart, the one you lovingly and faithfully tended, the one you faltered and failed in, to raise your children. That relationship, that fortitude, that faithfulness, will help you mother your children--no mater how they come to be yours. Be joyous in time with your husband. Enjoy eachother. Do things you never thought you would do. Do not make him feel like he isn't enough--because even though he isn't, neither is a child. Only God will do. This time is aching, heart breaking, and suffocating. There may be moments of lightness, only for emotions to cave in on you, going through the cycle of "hope" and "hopelessness each and every month. I get it. I understand.</i><br />
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To the woman who just had a baby:<br />
<i>Love your baby, but love God more. You will feel overwhelmed. You will probably feel like a failure. You may feel like God has entrusted you with this new life, and you are anything but prepared, or even good enough for it. God will carry you through. I am not going to tell you to cherish these moments, because these moments are hard. The exhaustion. The feedings. The diapers. The rinse and repeat. The crying for seemingly no reason. The feeling that you are ill equipped. You are NOT. You are equipped for THIS child--God chose YOU to be this child's mother, and for good reason. This child needed YOU. </i><br />
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<i>Right now, you may be looking down at this new life and wondering why you aren't happy they are here. You may feel nothingness, or worse yet, guilt. You may feel like you can't do this, but you have to because you are, after all, this child's mother. You may be battling constant feelings of darkness, and wondering why in the world you cannot seem to shake it. Do not succumb to the temptation to do nothing. You WILL get through this. Do not succumb to the temptation to keep it to yourself. You WILL get through this. Motherhood is hard, but feeling like you don't want to be a mother even though you are, is even harder. Trust that God will carry you through this, maybe through a friend, maybe through a counselor. Speak what is happening out loud. There is freedom in honesty. It may be a long road to find the joy, BUT YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS--I know this because we have an everlasting Father who does not deal in guilt. He deals in joy. Let Him (and others) help you. </i><br />
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To the woman of multiple littles:<br />
<i>This is hard, isn't it? I promise that it will continue being hard until one day...it's a little bit easier. Then another day, it's even easier than the one before. During this time, you may need to learn the art of saying "no" and the art of asking "please?". These are important. Do not let your feelings of being overwhelmed, nor pridefulness get in your way. As believers, we are there to help each other. The art of saying "no" does not mean you will never do anything every again--it means, that maybe, just for now, your family comes first--that's okay. Better to be raising sharp arrows than to be too busy to sharpen them. Asking for help does not indicate weakness. It indicates strength. Many follow pride, for that is not difficult. However, those who humble themselves are wise indeed. As you go through this time, remember your children are learning, watching. What do you want to teach them? How to not ask for help? How to always be busy? Or how to value time and each other? How to value humility and asking. Asking will create a heart of understanding and giving for when you are out of this time, or even when there are breaks in this time of motherhood. Trust the Father, and trust His truth. </i><br />
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To the woman who has had to say goodbye to her child/children:<br />
<i>I am so sorry. There are no words that can solve, soothe, or cure your aching heart. There is nothing that will help, but for a short time. Time will help, but the problem with time is that it seemingly takes so long to help. Another child may help, but they are not a replacement. Ultimately, rest assured that God will carry you through even this. Even when your legs may fail and your steps falter, yes, He will carry you through even this. There is no burden too great for Him to carry. No grief too large for Him to grieve with you. Know this. THIS was NOT His plan! He may use it for the betterment of you and others, but this, in no way, was a part of HIS PLAN. Rest in Him. Be still in Him. Don't try to impress others with a face a "deep faith" that does not get shaken (although, if it isn't, that's good). Don't try to rush your grief. Like your child's DNA is unique to them and them alone, so is your grief to you. You will never be done grieving, you may even, at some time feel guilty for being happy, for forgetting about them, but don't. Just like death isn't in our Creator's plan, nor is guilt for this reason. May you find freedom and joy in our Lord, regardless of your circumstances. </i><br />
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While husbands are praising their wives, publically, for all the things their beloved does for their family, I have a husband who seemingly forgets that I exist---especially on Mother's Day. (This is not to say that my husband is a bad man, nor doesn't do anything, but he simply just doesn't think that way and I am still struggling with living with the fact that he does. Not wrong, just different. Hurtful different, but different.)</div>
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It's a deep hurt. One that goes so far below the surface that I am not sure how to handle it. I am foolish enough to continue to allow it to mock me. I look at it, and rather than feeling...encouraged by all those who have (and continue) to go before me, I feel alone. Worthless. Wholly inadequate. It affects me no matter how many layers of masks I put on. Any small mistake, any small upset, becomes monumental. Mole hills become mountains. </div>
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I wish I could rest in what the Bible says about me. I wish I could fully believe and grasp and be affected by what God thinks of me. But years of lies spring to my mind on Mother's Day (even more so than regular days). Years of blame, come to rest on my shoulders. Years of "you're unloveable", "we didn't want you", "it's your fault we don't have the finances", and being called every cuss word under the sun repeatedly ring in my ears, repeatedly, on Mother's Day. </div>
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This is an extremely "woe is me post" and I recognize that, I truly do. I want to enlighten you to the fact, that on Mother's Day, not everyone has a great Mother's Day. To be honest, not being celebrated by my husband makes me feel like a failure. Satan has a great stronghold on me for this holiday, and I hate it, loathe it, despise it--right now, both the particular chink in my armor and the day itself.<br /><br />Next Mother's Day, as you are being celebrated and loved, or are loving, please extend some of that love to someone who may not have it. To someone who you might know doesn't have a great relationship with their parents. To a woman who might not have a super emotionally engaged husband, because you never know that your words of encouragement might be just what they need. And if you can't find or think of anyone else you know, I will greedily take any encouragement you might have to offer, because Lord knows, I could use it. </div>
Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-88818653685378542552017-04-20T13:38:00.002-07:002017-04-20T13:38:24.497-07:00The Hard<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard being motherless. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard having a child. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard wishing for messes from little ones to clean up. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard cleaning up messes as soon as you've just cleaned. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard wanting a baby to rock and cuddle with. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard having a baby that only wants to be rocked and cuddled with.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard seeing your Facebook feed inundated with baby announcements. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard seeing your Facebook feed inundated by adventurous couples. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard wanting to help someone as they have a sick child. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard being that someone who has a sick child.<br />It's hard passing by baby clothing and wanting to buy, but not having a reason to. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard finding deals/hand-me-downs for children that fit in your budget.<br />It's hard seeing pictures of babies, messy with food, and you wishing for that. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard cooking for your children, and all they do is fight it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard feeling so alone and lonely inside. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard feeling like you never have a moment to yourself. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard to want your body to change with life inside it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard to get your body to change once life is outside it. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard researching all the reasons why you're not pregnant. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard realizing all the reasons you no longer want to be pregnant. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard to deal with the guilt from not being supportive of your pregnant friend. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard to deal with the guilt of not wanting to be a mother. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard to stay in God's word when it seems His promises do not apply to you. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard to stay in God's word when you feel like there's no quiet time to be with Him. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard to want to be with your husband because he doesn't understand the desire. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">It's hard to FIND TIME to be with your husband. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Mothers...It. Is. Hard. It's all hard. Both spectrums, completely different, completely hard. One is not greater than the other. They are different.<br /><br />I can say with utmost authority, that we CANNOT downplay eachother's times of "hard". We cannot diminish someone's current "hard" by comparing it to their previous "hard". We cannot say superficial phrases to pacify someone's current struggles with their "hard". </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Friends, we have got to carry each other's burdens. We have got to exhort. We have got to encourage. If we just say something so cliche to just....acknowledge that we heard them...what are we doing?!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">Mothers of young children, who are walking this path--I am speaking to you. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">EVERYTHING we do, will help shape the mothers of today--the children they are mothering. THAT IS THE GREATEST burden!!! If all we can say is "It's just a season" or "But do you remember before?', how are we encouraging each other. How are we directing each other to Christ. How are we carrying each other's burdens to the best of our ability? Have we become so busy and infatuated with ourselves that we forget that there are serious hurts in someone's path of infertility? Deep doubts in the young mothers trying to raise their children? Vast canyons of overwhelmedness in the woman's spirit? </span><br />
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-89123805510597960222016-02-23T08:43:00.004-08:002016-02-23T09:58:36.193-08:00He Is The Great Father. <span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">It's been months since I have written anything. Partially due to busyness that just so happens to be life, and partially due to fear. I am fearful of writing something that someone just shouldn't write. I am fearful of being criticized for some parts of motherhood that I was unprepared for. Dirty, messy, sticky, and dark parts. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">But there's an awful part to being a mother that I was NOT prepared for. After having Addie, I was over the moon and thrilled and joyful. Even on the hardest days, I remembered what the pain was to NOT have her, and that kept me going.<br /><br />Clara...Clara is a different story. When I found out I was pregnant only 5 months after giving birth I was so overwhelmed an thankful! A prayer not yet prayed, was answered. As the pregnancy progressed I was sad to miss out on so much with Addie, due to that ever persistent morning sickness. The pregnancy wore on me, emotionally and physically. I <i>think</i> I was happy. I <i>think</i> I was excited. I wasn't too worried about life with 2 under 2 though.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Fast forward to December 23, when our sweet Clara Grace was born! My first reaction was relief. She was here. She was safe. She was a she! I was prayerful (and asked others as well) to be in prayer for a baby that was able to nurse well, because pumping again seemed pretty difficult with a 14 month old running around and needing me. Again, another prayer answered!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Amidst all this joy and thankfulness, by the second week after bringing her home, I started feeling lost, adrift..drowning. Clara couldn't handle my let down and started throwing up every time I nursed her, but would take a bottle better, even then it was inconsistent of when she would projectile or not. By the second week, something was off. I wasn't happy that she was here. I felt awful. By the second week, I started second guessing everything that is within me on what it means to be "mother". By the second week, I was lamenting that I was again, missing out on so much time with Adelaide. By the second week...I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. <br /><br />Perhaps there's denial, but I honestly don't think it's post partum depression. I think life is hard. I think anytime new life is added to a family, it gets harder. It doesn't matter if it's 2 under 2, 3 under 3, 1 child, 14 children, or children spaced exactly how you want them. You will, in fact, be the busiest you've ever known you can be no matter what season of life you are in. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "helvetica neue" , "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">And this, this my friends is where I am fearful. Every child is a gift from the Lord. I know that this is a season. I know that I do love her. But guys, I am just not ready for her, and that makes me feel like the worst mother in the world. I feel guilty that we have been blessed with 2 girls after having a struggle with even having one and knowing others are in the midst of yearning and grief. </span><br />
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-66499725298138410652015-03-11T06:42:00.000-07:002015-03-11T06:42:05.828-07:00He WorksRecently, I have been on this MAJOR cloth diapering kick because I love GroVia's hybrid system soo very much. So much in fact, that I am now an advocate for them (eek!). As I was thinking about how to "sell" parents on cloth diapers, I resist putting too much on Facebook--because that is an annoyance of mine, products instead of people.<br />
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Will the GroVia system work for every person who wants to try out cloth diapering? Heaven's no. But I have a secret for you. There is not one oil that works all the time for everybody. There is not one vitamin that everyone is in need of. There is not one drink that will solve everyone's health problems. There is not one facial that will be attainable for everyone. As I was sitting here thinking of all of the businesses on Facebook, I am encouraged that people are making money and loving what they are selling! I am encouraged that my friends are encouraged.<br />
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However, as I go into this new "venture", there is something that is weighing heavily on my heart. Will I try to sell more diapers than I will try to sell Jesus?<br />
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You see, we have ONE savior that does work for everyone. We have ONE God who can cure issues of the heart.<br />
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So here's my goal as I start educating people about cloth diapers:<br /><br />To do it with the Glory of God in mind. To do it honestly. To compare products unbiasedly against each other. To care more about the people than my sales--I would rather just have them know it's a possibility and an attainable one at that. To be gracious, loving and kind in talking with people. To be thoughtful of their financial situation. To let love, more than money, do the talking.<br />
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There is not one product on this earth that works for everyone, but there is one Heavenly Father who does.<br />
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<span style="font-size: x-small;">*Shameful Plug* If anyone is interested in cloth diapering, having a cloth diapering class, or anything like that, feel free to contact me. </span>Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-45202379128137922082015-03-02T14:36:00.002-08:002015-03-02T14:36:54.352-08:00He HoldsThere are so many thoughts that run through my mind after I cuddle Adelaide to sleep. Prayers, worship, lists of things to do, what will I have for supper, ect. It is a never ending rotation of thoughts. In the overwhelmingness of thinking, truth always shines through. <div>
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How often do I hold my little dear's hand to guide her to peace? How often do I hold her body close to mine? How often do I whisper songs of truth in her ear? How often do I simply just hug her because she needs it? And how often do I hold her, simply in awe of the perfection of the moment. </div>
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How often do I miss my Heavenly Father doing that for me? I need comfort. I need peace. I need truth, and encouragement! If I run out of these from the Father, how will I lead my precious Adelaide to Him? How will I learn to be still and be in awe of the moment with God?</div>
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-78754092460912371622015-02-04T07:52:00.002-08:002015-02-04T07:52:42.431-08:00He is Far Sighted<div class="p1">
<span class="s1">Lately, Addie’s nights have been proving to be exceptionally hard to lay her down. I often don’t know what to do to try to calm her down. I don’t know how many things I should try. I don’t know if I should just leave her be to soothe herself. I usually just swing by the seat of my pants. Almost every night ends in me cuddling her to sleep after she has finally wore herself down. Last night, I started crying in defeat. Then, I started singing to her, and as her tiny arm slid down mine in her exhaustion whilst falling asleep, my tears of defeat changed to tears of thankfulness. For less than one year ago, was I not mourning for our children in heaven? One year ago, I was battling infertility and the spiritual battles that came along side it. Last night I realized just how short sighted I was in the realm of my God. How impatient I am in the things that I want, and just how strongly I feel not only defeat, and sadness, but joy and thankfulness as well. </span></div>
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<span class="s1">I am thankful for my years of difficulty, because they have made becoming a mother, the difficult parts so much more bearable and enjoyable. Yes, I still get defeated and frustrated, but the thoughts of my years of darkness are never far from my mind. There are some dim aspects of motherhood that I was not prepared for, but they pale in comparison to the void of darkness from years past. So, again, I am finding myself being thankful for the opportunity to have this crying, nay, screaming babe in my arms. I am thankful for not knowing what to do, because it means she is here. It means my little promise from God is here, in my arms, entrusted to me. I may not be joyful in every situation that Addie girl throws my way, but I am most certainly thankful, because without the grace of God, I could be crying for entirely different reasons right now. </span></div>
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-4757987177150333722015-02-03T09:21:00.001-08:002015-02-03T09:29:58.299-08:00A Long Post About Baby Stuff and Budgets. (0-3 months)I have been wanting to write this for awhile now. A list of what budgets to NOT be surprised by and what products I really liked and thought were worth it.<br />
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I tried REALLY hard to not have cravings. I even instigated a 3 day rule...if I didn't want it after 3 days, it wasn't a craving, just a whim. That being said, I didn't really have too many cravings, but I did have things that sounded good and didn't sound good and that would change daily. Also, around weeks 9-12 I was so doggone tired that I HATED cooking. All I wanted to do was sleep. There were also a couple of times where I would make supper (something that sounded good), take one bite and gag.<br />
<u>Bottom line:</u> make your food and eating out budget flexible. Maybe you won't have that issue, but maybe you will.<br />
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Obviously, this is a no brainer. I was in so much contact with our insurance agency, they probably got tired of me. That being said, our OBGYN office did not contact us until 5 weeks before our due date with telling me how much we would need to pay within 30 days of our daughter's birth. Luckily, we have medical savings, luckily we were saving some every month, and luckily they realized that they should have gotten to us much sooner.<br />
<u>Bottom line:</u> Be in contact with your hospital, OBGYN, and insurance agency to know what you will need to pay, what your deductible is, what counts towards it. We were able to pay for Addie's birth in full, but if we had not had an emergency fund and savings (a la Dave Ramsey), there would have been a slightly bitter taste in our mouth with payments.<br />
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Being pregnant at least 2 other times before, I had scoured the internet (mostly Old Navy and Target) for maternity clothing deals. I found some great ones and really, I could have not needed to buy anything. That being said, my upper body did not fit into the ideal baby doll or empire waist type shirts and dresses that I had gotten previously. So many cute things went unused. By the second trimester, I could no longer wear either my regular pre-pregnancy clothes as the norm, nor a plethora of maternity clothes I had in my stash. I had to buy all new items, which really stunk, budget wise, and something I was not expecting to have happen.<br />
<u>Bottom line:</u> If you are searching for deals, stay away from empire waisted things until you KNOW how they will fit you. Also, do try to make your normal shirts last as long as possible (splurge on jeans and shorts, especially in the summer). Most maxi dresses will work too.<br />
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Honestly, by the time we found out we were pregnant, we started saving $150/month to spend on baby supplies. You would be surprised at how fast everything adds up--even with baby showers! Even after baby, you find things that you don't even know you needed, but you do. Keep setting aside that money!<br />
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<i>* Medela breast pump--</i> I wanted to nurse Addie. Surprise, surprise when she couldn't nurse due to our anatomies not matching up. Luckily, I had contacted my insurance and talked with my doctor about a prescription for a breast pump and it was fully covered with a prescription. I was also able to pick it up before Addie was born, so imagine my relief coming home, that I didn't have to worry about getting one right away, since I already had it. Even if you can nurse baby, this is a great thing to have on hand, and you don't always know what your body will do or what your baby will do. Always contact insurance first.<br />
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<i>* Nursing shawl/cover-- </i>This was also an item I purchased before Addie was born, in hopes that I would be nursing. As stated above, I am not able to, but when I excuse myself for pumping when we are around others it is nice to have something to cover myself with in case a little girl walks on in. Plus, who knows, maybe our next child will be entirely different.<br />
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* <i>Feeding products (lanolin, milk bags, soothies, breastpads, and therapearls)--</i> I liked having these all on hand. I barely used the soothies, lanolin, and therapearls, but am glad that I invested in them before giving birth, that way I didn't have to run to WalMart. Fun story too, WalMart doesn't always have these things in stock.<br />
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<i>* Pumping accessories--</i> Hands free pumping bra (if you have to pump and can't nurse, invest in this. Just trust me). Pumping bag. Ebay has some for $25 or less, but they are really nice those first months if you need to pump and you still want to go places.<br />
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<i>* Boba or Moby wrap/baby carrier-- </i>I bought a boba wrap at a consignment store for $10. It was worth it. I have only used it a couple of times, but it was so helpful and honestly quite comfortable to wear with her for hours at a time.<br />
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* <i>Rocker/Recliner--</i> I recommend a reclining rocker over a glider any day of the week. There'll be a couple of nights where you will need to snuggle with your little one, and having something that you can both put your feet up and lean back, so that you can catch some zzz's is overall better in my opinion than a glider. That being said, not all parents NEED a glider, or even a rocker. Many parents snuggle on the couch or on the bed and have great success and comfort with those options. I wanted our bed to not be the go to. I also didn't want to sleep on the couch for those nights since my husband wakes up and gets ready to go at 6 am some mornings. The reclining rocker in the nursery was just the ticket for us and our lifestyle. Also, whatever you do, really think about getting leather/bonded leather. Like I said, Addie spit up a lot, and let me tell you--wiping it off of the chair was <i>way</i> easier than trying to clean our microsuede sofa.<br />
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<i><b>* </b>Rocker/sleeper/bassinet--</i> There are two kinds of rocker sleepers that I like. One was the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Newborn-Rock-Sleeper-Yellow/dp/B00C2KW3FG/ref=sr_1_1?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1422983284&sr=1-1&keywords=rocker+sleepr">Fisher Price</a> rocker sleeper for baby and the other was the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Love-Rocker-Napper-Brown/dp/B0073DNYSW/ref=sr_1_1?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1422983335&sr=1-1&keywords=tiny+love+3+in+1+rocker+napper">Tiny Love 3-in-1</a>. We borrowed the Fisher Price one for traveling since it folds up and since Addie hated her carseat. For day to day use though, we used the Tiny Love. I opted to ask for this one for the baby shower since it had a greater pound limit and since I didn't know how long we would be using it for. The first month and a half she was in our room right next to our bed in this and it was great. Now it is in the basement for the times that both Simeon and I are downstairs, and it keeps her pretty well occupied!<br />
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<i>* Nose Frida--<a href="http://www.amazon.com/NoseFrida-The-Snotsucker-Nasal-Aspirator/dp/B00171WXII/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1422980375&sr=8-1&keywords=the+nose+frida">buy here</a> </i>We were recommended this by some friends. Boy, it's a little hard to get over the thought of sucking out boogers with your mouth, but honestly, do I love it. We have not used the snot sucker that came home with us from the hospital because this one just works so much better.<br />
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*<i>Multiple bottles to try--</i> We were lucky in the fact that we had 4 different bottles on hand for Addie to try since she was bottle fed. She also spit up generous amounts...a lot, so finding a bottle that reduced that was nice. Try finding them at garage sales, from friends to borrow, anything like that to save money before you settle on one and buy a certain brand. All babies are different and you just have to find what works for them. (We ended up settling on Dr. Brown bottles, and like them a lot)<br />
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* <i>NUK pacifier--</i> We got this brand paci in the hospital and Addie took to it right away. Foolishly, we bought another brand because of the dreaded "nipple confusion" (which didn't matter anyways AND I am pretty sure it is a pretty minimal problem). She hated them. So back to the store we went, and bought more NUK's. Really, just treat pacis like bottles, have the two different kinds to try, but don't worry about buying them. If they take to the one in the hospital, just stick with that one. They'll figure it out.<br />
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* <i>Bottle Cleaning supplies--</i> When you add up pumping and bottle feeding, that's a lot of bottles to keep clean. You have a bunch to clean by hand and for that we like the OXO bottle brush (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0038JDVCY/ref=sr_ph?ie=UTF8&qid=1422981331&sr=1&keywords=oxo">buy it here</a>). We started out with bottle brushes that have the foam on the end and it got destroyed within a month of use with the narrow bottle openings. We've had the OXO one for over 2 months and it's still in great condition. Also, at first we didn't buy a grass drying rack (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Boon-Grass-Countertop-Drying-Green/dp/B0032G9E0G/ref=sr_1_1?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1422981522&sr=1-1&keywords=grass+drying+rack">like this one here</a>, but we found an off brand at TJMaxx for cheaps), but boy is it nice. We used a towel first and lots of tipped over bottles and making a mess. This grass one holds all the bottles and pump parts upright and makes it much easier to move if I need the counter space. Lastly, I would recommend a dishwasher basket. Again, we bought the OXO brand because it made sense. It takes up some space in the dishwasher, but it is nice to have a place to clean all of the nipples, lids, spouts, straws and pump parts in the dishwasher at the end of the day (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/OXO-No-Tip-Dishwasher-Basket--Orange/dp/B0038JE61O/ref=sr_1_1?srs=2598021011&ie=UTF8&qid=1422981777&sr=8-1&keywords=oxo+dishwasher">buy it here</a>) and have a break from cleaning. Bottom line: If you are pumping and bottle feeding, invest in a good bottle brush that's all bristles, a grass type drying rack, and a good sized dishwasher basket.<br />
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*<i>Essential Oils--</i> I like Young Living for my essential oil stash. I chose to mainly have Lavender, Peace and Calming, Thieves and DiGize oils on hand. I love them. There's a lot of other useful oils to use for babies, but these 4 are my top choices so far. Lavender is nice for diffusing in her room, as well as curing her cradle cap. I like using Peace and Calming on the back of her neck when she's freaking out. Even if it doesn't work for Addie, when I am trying to calm her down and I smell the Peace and Calming, I have noticed that I have much more patience with her. Thieves is perfect for anti bac purposes, and she has yet to get sick because of preemptive applications of this on her feet (as well as being breastfed). DiGize is a life saver, not only for her, but for us as well. It is quite possibly the most effective oil we own (as in every time we've used it, it has helped one of our tummies). Sometimes, she has trouble pooping or has gassiness that she can't get out. On her feet it goes and within 5 minutes of application, spit up, poop, a burp, or gas happens and she calms right down.<br />
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<i>* Activity Mat</i>-- I really struggled with this purchase, after all it was one more thing to buy for her, but am I glad I did. She loves looking at her treetop friends (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Skip-Hop-Activity-Gym-Woodland/dp/B00JV8JMWO/ref=sr_1_4?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1422982308&sr=1-4&keywords=skip+hop+activity+gym">here</a>) and jabbering with them. I also needed it sooner than I thought I would. You could probably borrow one, but I fell in love with that one and figured it didn't take up too much space so I caved.<br />
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<i>* Baby bath-- </i>Just make sure you get a simple one that grows with baby. I know that sounds funny, but there are just so many options out there, that it gets confusing. <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-Bath-Tub-Rainforest-Friends/dp/B00BUO464Q/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1422982508&sr=8-1&keywords=baby+bath+fisher+price">This</a> is the one we ended up getting from WalMart and we like it. It is just a bath after all.<br />
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* <i>Blankets/Burp Cloths--</i> Make sure you have these on hand. I don't mean the heavy great big blankets either. I mean simple flannel blankets. We also just bought <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Gerber-Prefold-Birdseye-3-Ply-Diapers/dp/B005K47EG4/ref=sr_1_13?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1422982811&sr=1-13&keywords=gerber+cloth+diapers">gerber prefolds </a> for burp rags. In those early weeks, Addie spit up a lot. So having many of both of those on hand was what got us through the days. Even if you don't use them that much, it isn't a bad idea to have them on hand.<br />
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* <i><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Cozy-Cover-8501-Pink-Quilt/dp/B00GFYSJ6M/ref=sr_1_3?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1422983976&sr=1-3&keywords=cozy+cover">Cozy Cover</a>--</i> for the winter months is a must. Or something along those lines.<br />
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<i>* Cloth Diapers--</i> I opted to try out cloth diapers, and fell in love with the <a href="http://www.gro-via.com/">GroVia</a> Hybrid system. I won't write a huge spiel here, but let me know if you are interested in them and I can tell you my experience and what I like and purchased from them. Also, cloth diapering isn't for everyone, and for those of you that like disposable, I would suggest <a href="http://www.luvsdiapers.com/diapers-wipes">Luv's</a> diapers (at WalMart). They are the most economical that I have found (even though I hate the strong powder smell).<br />
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* <i>Baby monitor--</i> Just find one that you like. There are lots of good brands. We actually have 2 kinds, since one was given as a Christmas gift. The first one we have, we <a href="http://www.amazon.com/VTech-DM221-2-Digital-Monitor-Parent/dp/B007NG5UEU/ref=sr_1_1?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1422983681&sr=1-1&keywords=baby+monitor+with+2+parent+units">bought</a> since it has 2 parent monitors that are rechargeable. This is nice because we can keep one in the basement and have one in our bedroom and not worry about carrying it all over with us. Also, once it starts getting nicer outside, it will be nice to have it outside without the cord. The second one we received was a <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Infant-Optics-Digital-Monitor-Vision/dp/B0052QYLUM/ref=sr_1_2?s=baby-products&ie=UTF8&qid=1422983650&sr=1-2&keywords=baby+monitor">video monitor</a>. Normally, I wouldn't say that the video is necessary, but we really enjoy using it. It is nice to see if she is waking up before she gets really upset. Primarily, I liked it because we had her sleeping on her tummy pretty early on, so not having to go in and check on her so often (new mom) to make sure she was still breathing during her naps. This one is also rechargeable which is nice, and we ended up putting it in the living room, so now, we have zero need to carry around any monitor, unless we go outside. Score!<br />
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There you have it. That's my list of things that I have found that has actually made our life work smoothly. No matter what you decide to get or not get, I will say this. Make sure all of your big things are gender neutral. Carseat, activity mat, ect. You want to reuse and save money, not spend it all on adorable baby stuff. Buy used clothes at garage sales, or thrift stores, or even borrow them.<br />
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<i><br /></i>Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-17148176558745888702015-01-15T14:37:00.001-08:002015-01-15T14:37:35.231-08:00He is a FatherThere are a few things I have learned from being a new mom. Changing, feeding, managing time, and some of Addie's cries are a few things that come to mind. Want to know what I have learned the most though? Patience. Want to know what I am learning the most of? Patience.<br />
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For anyone who knows me, I am not a patient person. In fact "slow to anger" does not describe me at all. I am working on it--I have been for the last 4 years in earnest, so now I am much slower to anger, but there are those things that still rile me up quite quickly.<br />
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So, the one thing I have learned about being a mom is that it simply takes patience to adjust to a new way of life. When we first brought our daughter home, I was over the moon. I looked at her and was floored that I am her mother. I sat in disbelief and awe. Sometimes, I still do. There's another side of this that I was not expecting. The very first day she cried all day and would barely calm down, I felt like the worst mother in the world. She just cried and cried. That insecurity drove me very quickly to frustration. That frustration built and built and built. Addie was on the changing table and I remember staring at the ceiling and just screaming out, "I know I am a terrible mother, okay?!". Truly, I know that I am not a terrible mother, but not being able to calm your little one certainly makes one feel as such--especially when someone is new to the whole "mom" thing.<br />
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2 1/2 months into her life, I feel like I finally have somewhat of a clue. There is a new normal and my patience is higher. However, just because I have a higher tolerance level, does not mean that it will not be continued to be tested. In such a short time of becoming a mother, one thing has become almost painfully clear to me. Just how patient with me is my God, my Heavenly Father?<br />
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I throw tantrums when I don't get my way. I cry out in emotional pain and don't stop. I am clingy and needy. I am insecure and cry out to Him constantly. Yet...He sits there, taking it all, being slow to anger, and loving me just the same. As a mother, I pray that this aspect of my Lord is one that I can exhibit to my daughter. My love will never be enough for her, but I pray that my love and patience is what will help urge her into a relationship with our Father. I pray that in all circumstances, she grows up seeing a direct reflection of the characteristics of God.<br />
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As I was thinking about the past month, I was thinking about what products I would recommend to have. Reading blogs is just so confusing. I wish there were a pretty good list, and babies are so different to know what to get! In future posts, I will be giving my opinions on what to get for going to the hospital, 1-3 months, 4-6 months, 7-9 months, and 10-12 months. I will try for it to make as much sense as possible, with some flexibility.<br />
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<br />Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-86712850241691925642015-01-02T18:40:00.000-08:002015-01-02T18:44:24.247-08:00He Allows GrowthAs I was putting away clean laundry today, I realized that Addie no longer fits into most newborn clothes. I packed them away and wondered if I was really sad about her growing and I came to the conclusion that I am not. Her growth means that as a parent, I am doing something right. I get to see her grow, learn and absorb the world around her. I get to see her smiles, and her personality develop. Last year my verse was "Be still and know that I am God." I choose to be still in the growth of my daughter. I am not sad for the times of growth, nor am I anxiously awaiting her TO grow. I am being joyful in each stage of her life, right where she is. I rejoice in knowing that she is growing.<br />
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I hope that I can keep this focus. I believe that it will translate into other areas of her life. I pray that with this attitude, she realizes that she is fine just where she is. She doesn't have to grow up and please me. She doesn't have to stay little to please me. She has to learn and grow at her pace, her time, and in the way God created her to. I pray that if I keep this focus, she grows confident in where God has her.<br />
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Bottom line, I pray that she understands the meaning of "Being Still". I pray that as a mother, I can be patient and not force her to grow up or expect things of her before she is ready to achieve them. I pray that as she reaches and achieves and learns that I am there, cheering her on, encouraging her to the point that she can be confident enough to do virtually anything. I pray that I neither hold her back, nor push her before she is ready.<br />
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So, I guess that "being still" is still kind of my phrase for yet another year. It pairs perfectly with "peace in every situation" phrase I have chosen for this year. As she grows and learns, I pray that I allow God to create a spirit of learning in my own heart.<br />
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<br />Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-66801207415782990372014-12-31T22:44:00.000-08:002014-12-31T22:44:04.808-08:00He is NewIt is 12:26 am on New Year's Day. The first New Year's Simeon and I have stayed up for in at least three years (the irony of staying up the first year we have a newborn and going to bed early the other three years without one is not lost on me). I am sitting at home, hoping for a reflective spirit of the year behind and of the year ahead, whilst my wonderful husband is retrieving my forgotten phone from our friends's house...again.<br />
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Aside from the Times Square celebration playing on the TV, there was no cheering for 2015, no special kiss at midnight, no confetti. This evening, there were friends and families gathered, games played, and conversations shared. 2015 isn't really a new beginning, there's no clean slate, things that happened December 31, 2014, are still going to happen January 1, 2015 (with the exception of messing up checks).<br />
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There is always a spirit of new-ness when the new year rings in, though. Why do we crave the resolutions, the new, the clean, the refreshed? We crave Him. We crave the newness of life, the cleanliness, and the refreshment that only He, our Savior and Lord can provide. We celebrate His birth on December 25th every year, but the real joyous occasion, is that we can taste, enjoy and receive the new-ness He has to offer every day of the year.<br />
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So this year, let your old bad habits become clean. Let your good habits that have fallen to the wayside become renewed. Sure, go ahead and make that New Year's Resolution. But let Christ make you clean, let God create in you a new heart, and let the Holy Spirit continue to refresh you, because that, is what I am hoping for in the year 2015--that He continues the good work in me, and that I allow it.<br />
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Every year, I find a verse that I seem to speak as my own over the year, one I cling to when I desperately need it. Last year, was a simple "Be still and know that I am your God." This year, is seems to be a little hackneyed since I used it on our Christmas 'card' and our New Year's card, but it is my prayer for the year ahead---I think we will need quite a bit o' peace after all.<br />
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Happy New Year, and may it be blessed, indeed!<br />
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-9869699069937846352014-12-02T11:45:00.001-08:002014-12-02T11:57:33.361-08:00His Cost is GreaterThanksgiving is tomorrow! Where has the time gone?! As I was sitting here, I had what I was most thankful for. Isn't it obvious? Of course it is our little Adelaide Joy. However, then I got to thinking why I was thankful for her. There's the obvious reasons--ones that you have all heard and gone through with us along the way. Then I thought about the cost of having Addie--and just how brilliant the cost was.<br />
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You see, having her cost me so much in life--so very much. </div>
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She cost me my bitterness. </div>
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She cost me my selfishness,</div>
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She cost me my sorrow.</div>
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She cost me my fear.</div>
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She cost me my hopelessness.</div>
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She cost me my anger.</div>
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She cost me my self-inflicted loneliness. </div>
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She cost me my empty arms. </div>
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She cost me my unblemished stomach. </div>
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She cost me time with my husband. </div>
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She cost me my time to myself. </div>
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Having her has cost me, and will continue to cost me these things, and my friends. I am glad. </div>
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She cost me my bitterness, and replaced it with sweetness. </div>
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She cost me selfishness, and it gave way to selflessness. </div>
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She cost me my sorrow, and it blossomed to joy.</div>
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She cost my my fear, and it died to courageousness. </div>
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She cost me my hopelessness, and it turned to believing. </div>
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She cost me my anger, and it melted away to peace.</div>
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She cost me my loneliness, and created togetherness. </div>
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She cost me my empty arms, and constantly made them full. </div>
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She cost my my unblemished stomach and instead I have a permanent reminder of God's faithfulness.<br />
She cost me time with Simeon, and changed it to time as a family.<br />
She cost me time to myself and created time for reflection on God's goodness.<br />
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She will continue to "cost" me, test me, and teach me, Some of the "costs" will be hard to accept, some of them will be hard to let go of. I would be lying if I said that having her hasn't made my life easier with less reason for bitterness and anger, God has done more than give me her, in His mercy, He has freed me from so many internal struggles of mine. Oh, they will rear their ugly heads, but when I look at Addie, there will no longer be doubts of God's personalized goodness towards me. So I will take on every sleepless night, every bewildering crying fit, every dirty diaper, and every bit of spit up, because when I look at Addie, I see a promise kept, a truth revealed, and love demonstrated, and I know that it is well with my soul,<br />
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When I see the "costs" of Addie, I think of what it cost our Heavenly Father to place Jesus Christ on the cross. To allow it. For that reason, I am even more eternally grateful, and pray with all my might, that Adelaide will one day understand the cost of the Father for her. His cost is so much greater than my own.<br />
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* This post was started the day before Thanksgiving, but because of Addie and a family filled weekend, it was not finished until today.</div>
Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-54908200941440625652014-09-05T12:17:00.002-07:002014-09-05T12:26:47.939-07:00He is CompassionateSo, this is a hard post for me write. It's about this pregnancy and what I have seen through it--and that makes it hard, because I guarantee you that parts of it will come across as complaining and whining, even though that is not my intent, and in saying some of the things, I will feel guilty.<br />
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Through this pregnancy, I have tried really hard not to complain. I have probably failed at it--a lot. The weight gain, the stretch marks, the sweating, the peeing, the hormones--all of those things I have taken in stride. However, there are a couple of things that have really bothered me, physically, and emotionally.<br />
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Physically, one of the changes have been hard because nothing seems to fit me properly. I have had to spend money on top of money just to have something that fits, is comfortable, and looks like I am not trying to squeeze into something that's half my size. It's hard because it makes it harder to be modest...loose fitting things, have become tight. Things that should go up, instead come down. People notice--men notice. I feel guilty, but also at this point apathetic. It makes my upper back hurt because of how fast it has changed and my back muscles can't keep up with that growth. This isn't a vanity thing.<br />
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The other issue are my hips. They hurt. Not when I am walking around throughout the day, but at night, or anytime I lay down to sleep. It's not uncommon to have one hour where I am awake 3 times within that hour. I consistently get 4 hours of sleep, and that is on a good night. Naps are hard too...because it isn't just at nighttime. It's anytime my body is horizontal. Sharp shooting pain drives through my hips and nothing works to alleviate it. I don't complain about this because it's there, I complain about it because I am TRYING to deal with it (and I have been since early on in the second trimester). I am trying solutions that will work. Even my OB and Chiropractor are at a loss for what I should do. I get adjusted at least twice a month, if not more. I go to a massage therapist (although, I forgot to make an appointment, and keep forgetting because it's new to me). Tylenol lasts for such a little time, and pumping my body full of it makes me cringe with fear. If I sit up after laying down, my hip pops--and it is painful. It's not a relief thing, because it goes right back to the pain. I can't control it. I wake up crying and in tears--partially from pain, but mainly because there is so little time I have been able to sleep that I can't properly deal with my emotions.<br />
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Why am I telling you this? Simply because when I have told others this, a majority of responses (not all), are not kind. I am writing this to remind you mommas of all the pains and hardships you had in your pregnancies. I am not a naturally sympathetic person when it comes to there being a solution for an issue, that is not being approached. (For example, if one were to complain about being thirsty and doing nothing about it when they are able to.)<br />
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Anyways, here's my urge to you all from one extremely physically and emotionally exhausted expecting mother. Be kind. Be compassionate. Be encouraging. Be thoughtful. Be sincere. I have heard the phrases "This is what you've prayed for.", "Oh, but it will be so worth it..."Just you wait until...(fill in the blank)", "But this child is such a blessing...", "It doesn't get any better, so you might as well get used to it now.", and countless other phrases that are similar. I get why these things are being said. I do. They all make sense. However, they all make me feel even worse. I know this is what I prayed for, and I am soooo thankful for it. I am excited by it, anxious for it, exceedingly in awe of this child! This pregnancy is already a blessing, this child IS a blessing--a promise fulfilled and every time I think of how merciful and kind God has been, I am moved to tears. I AGREE with you on these things!!! But it isn't what is needed. Hearing those thoughts make me feel guilty for even thinking about how hard this is--especially the fact that this IS what I prayed for. Does that mean I am not allowed to be in pain? Would you have sympathy for someone who broke their leg in a car accident that wasn't their fault?<br />
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The other phrases "Just you wait until...", "It doesn't get any better...", and other things like that make it so hard as well. Where is the hope for better days? I get that motherhood is hard, I really do. I know that right now, I cannot grasp what all that means, and that will have to come at another time, but where is encouragement? Shouldn't we be edifying one another? Honestly, without having the rest I even need to get by, and being so exhausted, emotions have more power over me than I would like. Fear comes in like a monster, fears that really have no place in being there, but are now bigger and badder simply because I am tired.<br />
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I beseech you, to be you to be kind. I am aware that I more than likely wasn't kind or showed the same compassion with you that I am asking for now, and for that I apologize. If this is how you felt when you had tried talking to me, I now understand. Yes, I was bitter and thought that "well they have such a blessing, what do they have to complain about?!" and I was selfish. I hate that this is what it has taken me to have that shortcoming so blatantly obvious, and I feel awful that I was not compassionate. Again, I have tried hard not to complain about other things and instead tried to have an attitude of thankfulness for weight gain, and stretch marks, and not shaving any more (which that last one, REALLY is a reason to be thankful!). Those things affect my vanity though, not my physical well being. I am asking for some empathy, encouragement, and compassion instead of the typical comments. I am looking forward to giving birth and letting every single issue I had fade away into the background of the precious new life. But please, right now, be kind. Be kind to Simeon as well, because he hears most of it simply because I don't know who I can talk to about this without feeling guilty. He feels helpless that he can do nothing to help the pain of either my emotions or my body right now.<br />
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Through this pregnancy, I can honestly say that after this, I want to be the mom that is understanding of another pregnant mom's pains and issues. It isn't just the physical pain. But physical pain, coupled with physical and emotional exhaustion, makes way for emotions from the enemy to take hold. Let's be kind. Let's be understanding. I hope that this is not a rude post, or a justification for complaining. Simply a post that enlightens how much more one could have to deal with than just the body changes. So much more. Let's bind together in the light and love of Christ, and allow others to hurt, and allow them to not feel guilty for hurting---emotionally, physically, spiritually, and under any circumstance. Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-10594894097864770572014-08-28T06:37:00.000-07:002014-08-28T06:37:50.794-07:00Trees of LifeRecently, I shared pictures of our nearly completed nursery on Facebook. There were many comments and "likes" on the project, but I wanted to share just one more thing (or a few) about this room.<br />
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It started over 3 years ago, with a free crib, and a new house. We knew what room was to be the nursery...the smallest one. It was painted purple. After 1 supposedly "Light coral" color that ended up looking like a peachy pink, it was changed to brown. After a while, the brown was too dark, but didn't need to be changed, because we were still waiting for that special time of actually being pregnant and not just dreaming about it.<br />
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Fast forward 6 months, that happened--then "un-happened" on Christmas Day of 2011. Unsure is the word best used to describe that time. We didn't know we had even been pregnant, so finding out that we had more than likely gone through a miscarriage was...shocking? But it set even a deeper desire to begin a family.<br />
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Fast forward 3 months...we found out we were expecting yet again, on the day we went to see Tim Hawkins in Lincoln no less. There were many reasons to smile that night. 2 months later, we lost that child as well. This time, it was crushing.<br />
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After that, time seemed to drag on. I remember repainting the nursery for what would be the last and final time. Not because we were expecting, but because I wanted something tangible to do--I called it "operating on faith". It seemed to pay off in a sense because no more than a few months later, we found out that we were indeed expecting...yet again! 3 months later, devastation.<br />
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The following year went by and I could not bring myself to go into the room to work on it. If I wasn't watching girls (since toys were primarily in that room), the door remained shut. The door to both the nursery and my hope was closed.<br />
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Finally, after a year or more of prayer, we felt being led to adoption. In January of 2014, we stopped trying so hard for a child, and felt confident in our hearts to give another child a home--and not just because we couldn't have any at the time. We resigned our dream, and began another one. Imagine my surprise when that month, I had my first cycle that I had on my own in over a year (something that I had been able to manage with diet and exercise before that just wasn't yielding results this time). And again a month later, when Simeon was gone, and I found out that God was indeed faithful.<br />
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I didn't work on the room for a long time. Yes I was excited, but there was so much fear--why bother opening up my heart again, if in a matter of a few weeks, it could very well be crushed again.<br />
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This room, this nursery, if you will, is so much more than a room to me. It is so much more than a baby's room, or a nursery, or even a cute room for a child.<br />
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This room is hope deferred, but not lost.<br />
This room is preparation when it seemed there was nothing to prepare for.<br />
This room is faithfulness amidst faithlessness.<br />
This room is a labor of love, when there was much bitterness in my heart.<br />
This room is what reminds me of who God is.<br />
This room is what reminds me that "Never once have we ever walked alone"<br />
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The trees mean something different in this room. For years, I wondered if I would ever feel a baby kicking inside of me. If my stomach would grow and swell. If Simeon would be a father to his own children. If he would be able to have the expression of awe at feeling baby kick. I dreamed of the day he would first see his first child. For years, hope was deferred. For years it made my heart sick. There are still some longings that have yet to be fulfilled, but there are so many that already have been. Those trees in there, that I painted simply because I liked them and because they went with owls, mean so much more. Those, are trees of life in there, and pretty soon there will be another life in there to enjoy them.<br />
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<span style="text-align: center;">Many hurts along the way, but a song that will be forever close to my heart, that I have referenced before in this blog, has been Matt Redman's "Never Once". In my opinion, the lyrics speak for themselves, and need no explanation. </span><br />
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-81224713483978574032014-08-22T09:00:00.001-07:002014-08-22T09:04:01.743-07:00He is Still, and Always MovingIt has been quite awhile since I have jotted down anything on this blog--or anywhere for that matter. We've been so busy! Getting carpet cleaned out, painting, getting ready for new doors, trim, and flooring is such a lot of work!<br />
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I am officially 29 1/2 weeks pregnant, in my third trimester. First off, let's just have a shout of joy and prayer of gratitude to the magnanimous proportions of God's grace...yes?! Something that's funny is that I am making lists upon lists upon lists. I kid you not "What to do Before Baby, What to Buy Before Baby, Packing for the Hospital, Diaper Bag Organization, What to Clean Before Baby, and Freezer Meals Before Baby" are all lists currently being crossed off...slowly but surely. Amidst all of these lists, I find myself freaking out and feeling prepared at the same time. Yes, I may be overdoing it, yes, these lists wont contain everything, and yes, I will freak out when, and after our baby Berns shows their face! Simeon, bless his heart, has told me many times, that we will be fine and to calm down. He's right, I know he's right--but I want to be prepared. I want to enjoy this process of pregnancy, birth, and the arrival of our boy or girl as much as possible, and I feel like if we will be unprepared, then I won't be able to do that. Having a child is hard right?<br />
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This week, during all of my crazy hare-brained schemes to finish flooring and all the details that come with it, I was thinking about how Psalm 46:10 says<br />
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It really got me to thinking about a direct correlation between having too many concerns, worries, and thoughts, and God being glorified. Am I, with all my lists, inhibiting the exaltation of my Father to be displayed? It's almost as if the Holy Spirit is saying to me:<br />
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It is such a hard thing to let go of. Oh, I still have my lists, but will I let them consume me? No. Will we be fine if we don't get everything done? Yes. I must remember to not let the thoughts of my mind hinder the thoughts of my God. So that's my perspective. Not deep, probably pretty wordy, and not overly erudite.<br />
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1. Shaving up to your knees is a blessed thing....and your husband should consider himself a lucky man when that happens.<br />
2. You, the person who never really sweat in sauna, are now constantly feeling that glistening sheen <i>everywhere </i>(and people think you are glowing....scoff)<br />
3. The Fed Ex guy looks at you weird because you have been receiving so many packages lately (Hey, it's not MY fault they don't ship everything in the order altogether....)<br />
4. The baby kicks and kicks and kicks, unless you want them to then they don't....<br />
5. You get about 3 hours of good sleep a night...after that, you turn all Russel (from Up); "My knees hurt, my elbow hurts, I gotta pee"<br />
6. You figure out that living in Hastings, NE, does <i>nothing </i>for your wardrobe options....<br />
7. You start finding out just how long Zulily actually takes to ship to you.<br />
8. Birthing classes are a whole new adventure of hilarity--and you sure don't mind retelling the story!<br />
9. You mentally kick yourself in your ever expanding backside for doing a flooring project in your third trimester!!!<br />
10. *Looks at clock, realizes it's an hour and a half since you last ate, then this happens* (Props to whomever gets the reference)<br />
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-88328230225326044732014-06-26T09:49:00.000-07:002014-06-26T09:50:04.909-07:00He is a ChoiceComparison to others is something I have always done to myself. Something I have always struggled with. Lately, I have been feeling Him say to my heart "Kristen, are you going to compare yourself to others, or are you going to compare yourself to who I created you to be? To my plans for you? Are you going to choose me?"<br />
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As I have been contemplating this over the past few months, I have been noticing something. Comparison is a theme in everyone's life. Sometimes it is harmful, sometimes it is helpful. As I have been going through my own feelings with comparison a thought hit me. I compare myself to what others let me see. People, by nature, only let others see a small portion of their lives. I know I do. This causes a terrible epidemic. Comparison, coupled with inauthenticity, is a dangerous things. This allows us to either consider ourselves better or worse than the ones to whom we compare ourselves with. </div>
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Imagine for a second the worst part of your life, or your marriage, or your family--the absolute worst fight or situation. Imagine your reactions. Now, imagine that all of that, completely on display for the world to see. The people you care about, the people you care that have opinions of you, your family, your friends....imagine them seeing how truly terrible you can react or beneath a polished veneer that we showcase on a daily basis. A polished veneer that is comprised of opinions, beliefs, smiles, and attitudes that you allow others to see. If you are like me, there is a sigh of relief, that my shortcomings are not on display for all to see. </div>
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If there was a sigh of relief, then why do we compare?! Why do we criticize, judge, condemn others issues that are on public display, when we have issues in our private lives that we refuse to acknowledge? We should be iron sharpening iron, the body of Christ--unified and working together. When we judge and criticize because of comparison, we hurt that unity, not help it. </div>
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-70179081712326328362014-06-16T13:36:00.002-07:002014-06-16T13:36:20.120-07:00A Natural ReviewOkay, so I have been contemplating for awhile on writing a review like this. Not because it's sponsored (which would be totally cool if it was!) but simply because it is a good way to review and explain what I like and don't like about some natural products. So, without further Adieu....<br />
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<b>1. Water Infusers</b><br />
There are 3 products I have bought and enjoy using for water infusers. Well, I take that back, 2 were bought, but 1 was given to me by a mother-in-law that knows me well.<br />
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<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Zing-Anything-Aqua-Zinger-Blue/dp/B008F4NBB8/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1402944051&sr=8-1&keywords=aqua+zinger">The Aqua Zinger</a><br />
<i>Pros</i>: I love this bottle because it has blades (that aren't sharp or dangerous) to mince up the fruit of your choice. Recommended, it says to wait 6 hours for best flavors, but if you get some great produce, you can infuse it right away, drink a glass of slightly flavored water, refill it and let it sit for a stronger flavor. It has a stainless steel screen where the blades meet, which makes sure you don't get chunks, seeds, or any other unwanted particles while you are drinking your water.<br />
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<i>Cons</i>: The blades do make it slightly more annoying to clean, not to mention, only for adult cleaning. Sometimes, I tend to get so excited about it, that I forget to put the second blade piece in and fill up the water and it is just no bueno. Lastly, I wish it was easier to take on the go and drink. There's no straw, and the opening is as you see it, so spillage happens a lot to me, especially in the car.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7_Y6iPTeWUdjywz6A3uGzOzp4b4XPSpTxFUUbO2VBnItcdC1_iYETJ5pfXKL4UcFZ4mSvESCyhLQQrkDkc033GILiU6kalaMYTx0R9X1FGEnD6Mhp_y-ytonKrImE1dK0yx4C8K6TY2o/s1600/41Atpg3ZWRL._SY450_.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj7_Y6iPTeWUdjywz6A3uGzOzp4b4XPSpTxFUUbO2VBnItcdC1_iYETJ5pfXKL4UcFZ4mSvESCyhLQQrkDkc033GILiU6kalaMYTx0R9X1FGEnD6Mhp_y-ytonKrImE1dK0yx4C8K6TY2o/s1600/41Atpg3ZWRL._SY450_.jpg" height="320" width="258" /></a><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Jokari-Healthy-Steps-Water-Infuser/dp/B003Y3B8PG/ref=sr_1_13?ie=UTF8&qid=1402944878&sr=8-13&keywords=aqua+zinger">Jokari Water Infuser</a><br />
<i>Pros: </i>This thing is great for making a large pitcher of flavored water. I love it for combining a bunch of different flavors that are refreshing on a hot summer day (Ummm....orange and strawberry anyone? What about cucumber, ginger, and lemon?). It's super easy to clean, AND it's nice not having to fish around your pitcher for the produce you infused your water with.<br />
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<i>Cons</i>: You have to know what combinations or flavors you like, otherwise, you have a large pitcher of water hanging out in your fridge. It has bigger gaps in it, so it doesn't work quite as well with smaller fruits or chunks of things (like berries). Lastly, it is like a 3" ball(ish) so you have to use a pitcher that has a wider opening.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiadCTxzxJ3JxhMwF3Jsw96CXkZNSI8h-24zaAeK2c60zuezg_t22TAwkzYY3fn0S4c6WiQyLIJYQKswRbaSCvj9yT1-CTLDnciK-pXRclfIFUc95zdKez2bpQgJ9d6wcpZ3sUgCR7yZx4/s1600/31uHB3qxy+L._SX425_.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiadCTxzxJ3JxhMwF3Jsw96CXkZNSI8h-24zaAeK2c60zuezg_t22TAwkzYY3fn0S4c6WiQyLIJYQKswRbaSCvj9yT1-CTLDnciK-pXRclfIFUc95zdKez2bpQgJ9d6wcpZ3sUgCR7yZx4/s1600/31uHB3qxy+L._SX425_.jpg" height="320" width="320" /></a><a href="http://www.amazon.com/dp/B00921MFKG?psc=1">Takeya Flash Chiller Tea Maker</a><br />
<i>Pros</i>: Yes, I know this says that it is a tea maker (which it is) BUT, I love this pitcher... in fact, I have 2 of them. I have used it with just fruit before and infuses just as well as the other two (although, this particular design works better with chopped fruit, simply because you can fit more in the screen that's in the middle.). PLUS, I have used it with loose leaf teas and fruit combined (delish), or just teas. You fill the middle of this pitcher up (the screen), which is detachable after it's finished infusing/brewing, and keep your beverage in the fridge. It's dishwasher safe (actually all of these things are) and because of the fine mesh screen, no chunks or particles go into the water. It's designed to lay on your shelves (yes, lay) for those fridges that don't have a foot of space for their pitcher/drink area. Also, for brewing tea, you fill the middle with the desired tea (loose or bag), then fill it halfway with boiling water. You let it steep, then take out the middle, fill it the rest of the way with ice, and voila! <br />
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<i>Cons</i>: For loose leaf teas, the screen is a little harder to get everything out, and it does stain. The stain doesn't bother me at all, but I thought I should put that tidbit in.<br />
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<b><span style="color: black;"><a href="http://www.norwex.biz/pws/home2999999/tabs/home.aspx">Norwex</a></span></b><br />
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So I apologize. I tried to find a couple of good pictures that included the products I own as well as the ones I use. That became harder to find, and really, I didn't feel like snapping a sub par picture in comparison to the ones above. As a whole, I enjoy their products. I love that I can seriously clean my fridge, windows, mirrors, and anything that needed to be dusted with 2 cloths. Usually, I would lug around windex, paper towels, pledge for stainless steel, mr. clean eraser, swiffer duster, and 2 soft cloths before for these tasks (which is why I usually split them up). I love how much they grab up. I like the antibacterial quality of them, but it really isn't my first priority, along with their "less chemical" campaign. Really, I care that so much stuff took up so much shelf and arm space more than anything.<br />
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<i>Envirocloth </i>and <i>Window Cloth</i> are the two cloths I use for all of the above listed duties. Might I add, that we have a large flat screen that shows up any particle of dust or fingerprint within a 3 mile radius (it seems). I can clean that with these two cloths and there is NO damage simply because it is done with just water.<br />
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<i>Body Cloth </i>I love using these to remove my makeup. The only mascara I use is waterproof and these still get it off with little to no problem. It is a little interesting to get used to, but they are nice. I don't get a greasy feeling or dry feeling from using either makeup remover or soap and water. They come in a pack of 3 and I enjoy that for 3 reasons. 1 is in my shower, 1 is by my sink, and 1 is in my makeup bag (or my overnight bag depending if I work or not). I love having one in my makeup bag. I tend to use liquid foundation and I apply it with my hands. I also tend to put makeup on AS I am going somewhere's, even if it's the 2 minute drive to church. It is super nice to get it wet, throw it in my makeup bag and have my hands foundation free by wiping them. For overnight, it is nice to be able to wipe away most the grime from the day. Since it is antibacterial and microsuede, I think it grabs up a lot of dirt and stuff, however, I would not recommend this for an actual face care regime. I still wash my face with oil (you heard that right, only thing that works).<br />
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<i>Wool Dryer Balls </i>These are simply to replace fabric softener. Let me tell you, they work. They reduce static, cut drying time, and you can add essential oils to them for the smell factor. They do everything they say they are supposed to do, which is rare to find a product like that. A con is that you have to beware of taking them out of the laundry with the dry clothes because otherwise your laundering is on hold. You could remedy that with buying 2 sets and alternating, but to me, that seems extreme.<br />
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Things I will be getting from Norwex in the future?<br />
<i>Their Mop. </i><br />
So we have dogs. Our dogs have hair. We have and will have lots of wood floors in the future. My routine for these floors, are to sweep, then dry swiffer to get as much of the dog hair off the floor as I could, then wet mop. Just for fun, I put a dry envirocloth in my swiffer just to see what it would do. Holy dog hair Batman! I cannot believe how much more I missed! Since I don't want to ruin the edges of my norwex cloth (since they are a bit pricey) I will wait until I have the actual Norwex mop from now on. Luckily I do have a cheap microfiber cloth that still picks up more than the dry swiffer sweeper cloths (although still not as much still...I retested the enviro aftter that one too), to get me through for now.<br />
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<i>Their toilet brush</i><br />
It always just looks so clean and like it wont get disturbingly yucky.<br />
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<i>Their body towels</i>:<br />
Simeon hates that after time our towels stop being soft. Norwex, even ones that I have used at my Mother-in-law's house for cleaning (that are possibly 2ish years old), remain soft. Since they are antibacterial, I would also feel like they don't need to be washed as much, also extending their life span<br />
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<i>Their baby towels:</i><br />
Pretty much for the same reasons as above.<br />
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<i>Cleaning paste:</i><br />
This stuff is miraculous. The demonstration of it was fantastic for kitchen and tile. it gets rid of sharpie, food dye, kool aid....bunches of stuff. For me, this is a hold off because, frankly, I don't care about my hideous yellow countertops with swirls of green. Also, we will be getting a new range relatively soon, so I just didn't see where buying the paste would benefit me when I would just waste it on things that I really didn't care about all that much (I am a great housewife, I know.) That being said, it's not like I abuse and color murals on my counters with permanent markers (although, they'd be significantly prettier).<br />
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<b><a href="http://www.youngliving.com/en_US/products"><span style="color: #444444;">Young Living Essential Oils</span></a></b><br />
I will be honest, I haven't used these a ton. I primarily got the "Everyday Oils" Collection that luckily came with a diffuser, to help deal with my morning sickness and early pregnancy insomnia. Morning sickness wasn't miraculously cured by these oils, but I can sure tell you that insomnia was. Almost every night there is Lavendar or "Stress Away" blend going in our little diffuser. I instantly became relaxed, and if I had to wake up to deal with morning sickness, I would put a bit more in and instead of staying awake after that hour long shower and what not, I would fall asleep almost every time. I will tell you this, I have tried peppermint oil from another company and thought it worked great, but somewhere along the way, it got to make things worse for morning sickness. Once I tried Young Livings, it worked again. I did also have a pretty bad knot in my neck (the kind that hurts when you just breathe) at one point in time and used "Pan Away" and there was almost instant relief. I haven't had a need to try any of the other blends of oils yet, but I am convinced that they work. They are expensive, so for smells around the house, I simply use different oils (not heated, and not in YL diffuser. Only for homemade floor cleaner, or for putting oil on the vacuum brush when I vacuum for smells. That is it. NOT in the dryer, NOT heated, and NOT for antibacterial purposes, I just don't trust them to be a pure as Yl. Definitely NOT internally or even skin wise.). I like that a lot of the time, if you can accumulate the right oils, you can save money simply by using those before going to the Doctor.<br />
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<b><a href="http://www.applevalleynaturalsoap.com/"><span style="color: #444444;">Apple Valley Natural Soap</span></a></b><br />
Okay, if there is one company that I am in love with it would be this one! First of all, it is a family owned and operated business, and the family is a homeschooling family. I can get behind that. I was first researching this because I wanted to go more natural (I was convinced it played a part in my reproductive system), a cheaper alternative, but I couldn't bring myself to do the "no poo". I love their shampoo bars. Honestly, I was skeptical at first, so I ordered like 5 or 6 samples before the real thing. I also ordered their vinegar rinse. I liked that I could buy samples, for fairly cheap, and then decide what worked best for my hair. I had 2 I hated and the rest I liked, but the next time I ordered, I knew exactly what I wanted, and I could order for their $50 free shipping without worrying about if I would like what I would get or not. Personally, I hate vinegar as a hair rinse, so I switched to lemon juice. Also, I order my jojoba oil (for face cleaning) and their argan oil for my skin and hair from there. Their prices are so reasonable, that really, I have spent less money on shampoo, conditioner, body wash, and face wash, not to mention WAY less time in the WalMart aisle. All of their ingredients are 100% natural and organic even, so I don't even have to ever worry what is going on my head or skin. I spent $90 over 6 months ago and have made it through 1 whole shampoo bar, and 1 body bar (average $5/bottle of whatever right now, and that is a significant savings). You DO have to make sure you have soft water, or else these soaps make your hair, and body sticky and waxy feeling since mineral deposits will stick to the oils in the soap. So beware! I warned you! If you have soft water but forget to fill it, don't worry, you will know when the salt is out. Your shower will tell you when you feel sticky and waxy. No problem, just keep other shampoo and soap on hand until you get it filled. It doesn't take a super long time for your hair to adjust back to natural, and I always use Herbal essences spray detangler after my shower because unfortunately, since there is no conditioner, hair gets tangled more. It doesn't have any effect on my hair either. (You have to go through an adjustment period for the natural soaps, before your hair starts looking healthy and not just frizzy and crazy)<br />
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Will I become an "All-natural Housewife and Mom" all the time? No, more than likely not. I like using cleaning products that are safe, but I also know that for me, I like the smell of clean. Sometimes that can be achieved using essential oils, but in a bathroom, I want that sucker to smell disinfected with bleach baby. Also, for me, it is all about what makes my life easier. If it requires more work, I won't do it. I dislike cleaning the house, so I am not going to do any more than I have to. Also, Norwex products and essential oils are an investment, so they take awhile to save up for. I loved Norwex from the moment I used it, but refused to go to parties for over 2 years simply because we had so many cleaning products I wanted to use and not waste until then. when I ran out, I made do with homemade recipes or way cheaper alternatives because I wanted those cloths!!!! Essential oils cost a lot of money, but if you can get the "everyday Oils" Package and add to them as needed, it could save you more money in the long run, with less trips to the doctor, and more so instantaneous relief from some things. Natural Shampoo and soap bars? I will probably always buy these for myself and children when they aren't so young. They are significantly cheaper, store well with minimal space, and there aren't any harsh things that can cause you to break out, especially in winter time.<br />
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<br />Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-84807802565578171802014-05-29T12:24:00.001-07:002014-05-29T12:24:10.418-07:00I am Sorry.Yesterday, I found out that a friend had lost her father. As I wrote a message to her earlier, I thought about all of us who have lost someone. As a friend, this is my letter to you. <div>
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I am sorry for your loss. I am sorry that everything I say will seem empty, even though you will say thank you. I am sorry that I cannot fix it. I am sorry that I cannot bring back your loved one. I am sorry that I am not there to just cry with you. </blockquote>
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I am sorry that I will say something that will hurt you more than heal you. I am sorry that I will forget about your loss in the chaos of my own life. I am sorry that I will forget that you will still be dealing and reeling from this pain longer than I anticipate. </blockquote>
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I am sorry that you will face hard days to come. I am sorry that you will be distraught at birthdays, holidays, and special events that your loved one should have been in attendance for. I am sorry that many days, you will feel like this burden is yours and yours alone to bear. I am sorry that I will forget to help you bear that burden. I am sorry that you will feel alone. I am sorry that I will forget to say nothing, and forget to just sit with you and cry with you because that is what you need. </blockquote>
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Most of all, I am sorry that I, as a friend, will never be enough to help heal your heart that is broken. </blockquote>
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I am sure you feel a void right now, but one that isn't quite a void. I am sorry that you will be in shock for a little and that the reality of your loss will come at you like a tsunami. I am sorry that you may have felt like prayers for healing went unanswered. I am sorry that any hope you had for healing, has been diminished. I am sorry that saying they are with Christ, and with our Lord, will not help the fact that you can no longer hold them, or love them here. I may not know the extent of your loss, or even the challenges you will face with it, but I am sorry that you will face them.</blockquote>
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I am writing this to let you know that it is okay. It is okay to be whammied by the suddenness of loss. It is okay to question God on why He allowed this, is it okay to wonder what His plan is. Please, do not question that He <i>does </i>have a plan. When we question His ultimate goal, we can learn His purpose. When we question His goodness in order, we question our faith. When our faith is questioned by us, it is shaken by us. Do not give Satan the opportunity to shake you. </blockquote>
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I am sorry that you will start to see people acting normal again, way before you are ready to. I am sorry that you will feel like screaming "Doesn't ANYONE REMEMBER?!". That's okay. The grieving process is different for everyone, and if you need more time, that is okay. Don't let anyone tell you differently. I trust you. I trust that you know the truth. I trust you know where our hope lies in life and in death. Because I trust you, I will not pressure you to be done with your grief before you are ready to be. The truth is this: you will never be done grieving. You will remember your loved one at the most random times, important times, and special times. Something someone says or does may remind you of them. I am sorry that you will be overcome with emotion in those times. I encourage you to not look at others' processes with the grief and wonder in your mind's eye how they can be doing so well. Comparison in this will leave nothing but inadequacy, dissatisfaction, and bitterness in your heart. I am sorry that you will have to let this circumstance refine you. </blockquote>
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I am sorry that some days you will feel like you have been fighting an unending war and you will be too tired to put your armor on. That is okay. On those days, remember that God has already won the war. Allow Him to shield you on these days, rest in Him on these days. He will take care of you, I promise. </blockquote>
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I am sorry that you will have good days, that might turn into bad ones. I am sorry that guilt might become a constant companion for awhile when you have good days. I am sorry that you will have awful, seemingly insurmountable bad days. I am sorry that I will more than likely not see those days. I am sorry that asking for help, or for a friend will become hard. I am sorry that you will feel like a burden on others. I urge you to remember that guilt is a tool of the enemy. I encourage you to remember that we have a God at whose feet we have the ability to lay down all of our burdens. I am sorry that this will be hard. </blockquote>
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I am sorry that you will need to be gracious with others that try to say the right thing to help, and instead hurt you more. I am sorry that you will have to remember that they will need to be gracious with you as well. </blockquote>
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My friend, it is okay to be hurt, it is okay to cry, it is okay to be confused, it is okay to still be grieving, it is okay to feel alone, it's okay to feel like no one understands, it is okay to not plaster a fake smile on your face, and it is okay to cry during any moments of worship or prayer. It is okay to display 'weakness'. There is amazing strength in weakness, my friend. Christ was weak in the Garden, but allowed himself to be refined and molded. He was physically weak on the cross. Weakness is where desperation for our Heavenly Father comes--weakness and broken hearted-ness is where He meets us, where He holds us, and where He continues to love us. I am sorry that this will be the hardest thing to remember most of all. </blockquote>
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I am sorry,<br />Kristen<br /></blockquote>
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I remember feeling many of these things as Simeon and I were going through our own losses. Maybe not everything we went through will be the same for everyone, but still, my heart aches for my friend. I ache knowing that the grief isn't just neatly tied up with a pretty bow as it seems many would like it to be. It's messy. It's dirty. It brings up sins and parts of you, that you didn't even know you had. You may feel like less of a Christian because everyone says to trust and not to question. But when we question correctly, we get closer to the character of our Lord. May we always remember our actions compounded with others' grief. May we always strive for being their friend above being their 'fixer', or their personal 'judgement'. May we remember who God was to us in our darkest, and reflect it. I am sorry if this offends anyone. I am sorry if you don't agree with what I wrote. Most of all, I am sorry that yet another person who Christ and his family alike treasure, is no longer here. </div>
Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-60060385550422720282014-05-20T08:52:00.002-07:002014-05-20T08:54:26.782-07:00He is SweetI sit here thinking of the past years of Simeon's and my marriage. So many moments encapsulated in sweet bliss, hysterical laughing, and complete togetherness. However, I also think about the moments engraved with bitterness, resentment, and blame--for both of us. I think about how far we have come, how far we have yet to go, and how much more we will have to fight to not become limited by bitterness.<br />
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2 years ago, Simeon and I went to an adoption summit (or was it just one year ago?) that was introduced by us. It's called 447 Summit, if any of you have the opportunity to go, I would encourage it! It is such an amazing way to just witness the calling placed on men and women's lives for adoption. When we were there, we had the opportunity to meet Nate and Sara Hagerty. Sara has a blog called <a href="http://everybitterthingissweet.com/">"Every Bitter Thing is Sweet" </a>. As I learned her story (she is a wonderful writer and speaker), I was reminded of my own bitterness. We had just lost Hezekiah, and I was grasping for anything for hope, for peace, and for simple understanding.<br />
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I see bitterness that takes root in my own life, and in others. Are we holding bitterness against others? Are we holding bitterness for the <i>cause </i>of others? I will be honest here, I don't know much about bitterness and where it would be considered right according to our Lord, but this I know from personal experience--it divides. In dividing, it can easily conquer. In association with my last post, about gossip and being a friend that loves at all times, I wonder if we have bitterness in our hearts, if it is remotely possible to be that? If we are resentful towards one (or for the cause of one) can we be the friend that God demands of us--to our spouse, to our friends, to our mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, in-laws, pastors, leaders, and to those in authority over us? I don't think that God calls us to be friends with everyone, but I do believe that He calls us to love beyond our limited thinking that induces resentment, anger, separation and bitterness.<br />
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In Sara's testimony, she talks about the struggle her and her husband went through to get pregnant, for much longer that Simeon and I. How their plans weren't happening and how it wove bitterness through her heart until she made a choice (I really hope that how I am remembering this is accurate.). She read the verse from Proverbs 27 and explains how it affected her heart here: <a href="http://everybitterthingissweet.com/2007/10/to-the-hungry-soul-every-bitter-thing-is-sweet/">To The Hungry Soul...</a> , her first blog post. Whenever I think of bitterness in my own soul, I think of this verse, her testimony, and the restoration in her relationships with her husband, with Christ, and with her future children (at the time).<br />
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It makes me think...what am I hungering for? What are you hungering for? What you hunger for is a direct line to what is bitter in your life and what is sweet. Am I hungering for a child, for things, for money, or am I hungering for Christ to transform me? Are we going to let bitterness dictate our actions and our thinking or are we going to let Christ be the transforming variable?<br />
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I know what it is like to hold on to bitterness because of how comfortable it is. It's hard work to make things "taste sweet". It is so easy to be stuck in a rut of bitterness for or towards others or life's circumstances, but in holding onto it, we miss out on the joy and the good. We live in a cage of mirrors when we live in bitterness. All we see is ourselves, or the ones we love hurt. We don't see outside of it. In the midst of this, one simple question comes to mind--Are we going to be bitter, or are we going to be better?<br />
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Again, there is no good segue into our pregnancy update, and I am quite dubious that there will ever be, but I will be okay with that.<br />
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<b><u>"You Know You're Pregnant When..."</u></b><br />
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1. You feel like the female pig statue at the corner of 14th and our street<br />
2. Laying on your stomach feels weird...like really weird...not really uncomfortable...<br />
3. Your grocery budget has been exceeded by quite a lot in the past 3 months<br />
4. You're down to your "painting shorts" for the summer because they were larger to begin with and they are the only ones that are comfortable on your waist.<br />
5. Everyone asks you the same questions (Morning sickness is going away, albeit slowly, and otherwise I feel fine, we are about 16 weeks along, we aren't finding out the gender, I think it's a girl, next appointment is tomorrow...the list goes on and on...)<br />
6. You wait to find out the gender simply because your husband and you couldn't agree on a gender reveal that you both liked and figured that the best gender reveal is when the baby is born.<br />
7. Laundry is a much bigger chore because you run out of staples much faster since everything that used to fit is slowly being packed away every other time you fold laundry.<br />
8. You truly value bowel movements much more (TMI?)<br />
9. You have a nightime schedule. You go to bed, wake up at 4 every morning, go pee (even if you don't think you have to, because you do, you know you do), go back to sleep only to wake 2 hours later out of starvation--literal "I-am-going-to-die-and-throw-up-at-the-same-time-if-I-don't-eat-something" starvation.<br />
10. A secret anger ignites every time you want something to eat and it's out of season--cherries. </div>
Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-26315145306440157482014-05-07T09:08:00.002-07:002014-05-07T09:08:52.608-07:00He is PureAs I am at the 14th week of this pregnancy today, I figured it would not only be a good time for an update, but also, what is on my heart.<br />
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Lately, I have been thinking about how many people I know are criticizing others instead of loving others (and I find myself criticizing the people I view as 'the critics'...beam much? Matthew 7:3). I have been convicted to just love. The sad thing is that we all have different viewpoints...what's wrong, what's right, what's good, what's bad, how situations should be handled and how they shouldn't be--the list is never ending. What's really been placed on my heart, though, is that if you are a believer in Christ--we ALL have the same Savior, the same Holy Spirit, the same God. We ALL have come from a place of death, and have been covered by His grace and mercy into a place of life.<br />
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Does criticism and gossip bring life or death?<br />
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Do we know everyone's struggles? Do we know their timeline of getting over their grief, their pain, their betrayal, or their strongholds? I ask these questions, because I have been so guilty of this lately. I would encourage everyone to love, to care for their 'friends'. If we can talk about them---we can love on them. </div>
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<br /><br /><b>Proverbs 17:17</b> "A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity."<br /><br /><b>Job 19:19</b> "All my intimate friends detest me, those I love have turned against me."<br /><br /><span style="font-family: inherit;"><b>Proverbs 22:11 </b>"</span><span style="font-family: inherit;">One who loves a pure heart and who speaks with grace will have the king for a friend."</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"></span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><strong>Proverbs 17:9</strong></span><span style="font-family: inherit;"> "Whoever would foster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends."</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br /></span></blockquote>
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What are we doing to cover offenses? To stay closer than a brother? To heal wounds? Are we taking sides? I remember during my miscarriages, a passage in Romans that stood out to me. </div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="text Rom-12-9">"</span></span><span class="text Rom-12-9" style="font-family: inherit;">Love must be sincere.<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28255Q" title="See cross-reference Q">Q</a>)"></span><span style="font-size: small;"> Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.</span><span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28255R" title="See cross-reference R">R</a>)"></span></span><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: small;"> </span><span class="text Rom-12-10" id="en-NIV-28256" style="font-family: inherit;">Be devoted to one another in love.<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28256S" title="See cross-reference S">S</a>)"></span>Honor one another above yourselves.</span><span class="text Rom-12-11" id="en-NIV-28257" style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="versenum" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;"> </span>Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor,<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28257U" title="See cross-reference U">U</a>)"></span>serving the Lord.</span><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: small;"> </span><span class="text Rom-12-12" id="en-NIV-28258" style="font-family: inherit;">Be joyful in hope,<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28258V" title="See cross-reference V">V</a>)"></span> patient in affliction,<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28258W" title="See cross-reference W">W</a>)"></span> faithful in prayer.<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28258X" title="See cross-reference X">X</a>)"></span></span><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: small;"> </span><span class="text Rom-12-13" id="en-NIV-28259" style="font-family: inherit;">Share with the Lord’s people who are in need.<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28259Y" title="See cross-reference Y">Y</a>)"></span> Practice hospitality.</span><span class="text Rom-12-14" id="en-NIV-28260" style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="versenum" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;"> </span>Bless those who persecute you;<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28260AA" title="See cross-reference AA">AA</a>)"></span> bless and do not curse.</span><span class="text Rom-12-15" id="en-NIV-28261" style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="versenum" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;"> </span>Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.</span><span class="text Rom-12-16" id="en-NIV-28262" style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="versenum" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;"> </span>Live in harmony with one another.<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28262AC" title="See cross-reference AC">AC</a>)"></span> Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited. </span><span class="text Rom-12-17" id="en-NIV-28263" style="font-family: inherit;">Do not repay anyone evil for evil.<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28263AE" title="See cross-reference AE">AE</a>)"></span> Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone.<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28263AF" title="See cross-reference AF">AF</a>)"></span></span><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><span class="text Rom-12-18" id="en-NIV-28264" style="font-family: inherit;">If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28264AG" title="See cross-reference AG">AG</a>)"></span></span><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><span class="text Rom-12-19" id="en-NIV-28265" style="font-family: inherit;">Do not take revenge,<span class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(<a href="#cen-NIV-28265AH" title="See cross-reference AH">AH</a>)"></span> my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.</span><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><span class="text Rom-12-20" id="en-NIV-28266" style="font-family: inherit;">On the contrary:</span></blockquote>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><span class="text Rom-12-20" style="position: relative;">“If your enemy is hungry, feed him;</span><span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks" style="line-height: 0;"> </span><span class="text Rom-12-20" style="position: relative;">if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.</span></span><span class="text Rom-12-20" style="position: relative;">In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”</span><span class="text Rom-12-21" id="en-NIV-28267">Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good."</span></span></blockquote>
I guess, the best way that this has woven itself into my heart is through this pregnancy. We all face something in life---it is a fact. I just pray that when my son or daughter (and even future children) go through one of those "things" that they have a friend that sticks closer than a brother. That they have a friend, right next to them crying--not because they understand, but because they love my child. I pray that my children are forces of greatness and healing in relationships with others instead of one who separates. I pray that my child will cover offenses with their love, and not point them out with judgement. I pray that this child, who is growing every week, will foster a love for Christ that translates to others. One of my favorite songs to describe this is "Words" by Hawk Nelson. Take a listen, even if you know it:<br />
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I can't find a good way to transition into an update. That bothers me so very much from a writing perspective. Anyway, I am feeling pretty good. I thought a funny way to update would be a segment that I notice throughout each week or couple of weeks or whatever so....<br />
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<b><u>You Know You're Pregnant When....</u></b><br />
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1. People look at you with the question "Is she fat or pregnant?" in their eyes<br />
2. You order maternity clothing that's "sized the same way before you were pregnant" and it doesn't fit.<br />
3. You cannot plan a meal simply because as soon as you make it, you want something else.<br />
4. You feel accomplished simply because you cleaned the kitchen, OR, laundry---but never both.<br />
5.You have a super power---it's called your nose, and you can smell a little girl eating cheerios over 2 rooms away.<br />
6. You could sleep all day, all night and still be tired....oh wait, you have to wake up to go pee, you have to readjust your nest of pillows every 30 minutes, you're wide awake at the most random times....the list goes on an on!<br />
7.You're husband is quite literally the bravest man alive because he got you the food that was the only thing you thought you could stomach that day (peaches, pickles)<br />
8. You have to eat All. Of. The. Time. Seriously. Or else you feel sick.<br />
9. Your husband definitely starts appreciating C's and D's instead of A's and B's. (Please don't criticize this...please?)<br />
10. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING fits right. You're too small to show off your <strike>cute</strike> alien-like bump, and too big to fit into normal stuff.<br />
<br />Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-6964912548330901712014-04-29T07:29:00.000-07:002014-04-29T07:29:56.712-07:00Never Once<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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So, it's out. The whole world can know if they so desire, that Simeon and I are expecting! We are beyond excited and blessed! When we found out, we were both so nervous to dare to hope. We have a wonderful doctor, who had us in every 2 weeks for ultrasounds, monitored my blood work and all around gave us the hope to believe, that this child, this time would make it into our arms.<br />
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I would be foolish to say that the joy of this baby, so precious already, diminishes the loss of their siblings. At the same time, I would also be foolish to say that this baby didn't help deal with those losses. Hezekiah's due date came and went, and I felt sadness, but so much hope.<br />
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Here is an update for those who wish to know:<br />
- This took us completely by surprise. We were planning on adoption, then 3 weeks later...presto!<br />
- There have been tears--lots and lots of tears.<br />
- My first symptom was hitting wall after wall with running.<br />
- My second symptom was crying at Food Network shows. I just felt so bad for the ones who were chopped!<br />
- I am almost 13 weeks along (tomorrow)!<br />
- Reaching Week 10 was a <b><i>humongous</i></b> milestone for us, and we felt like we could finally breathe!<br />
- Reaching Week 12 was beyond our wildest dreams.<br />
- I have battled with morning sickness, on and off.<br />
- At first I craved beef--steak. Not too many cravings now, but I definitely can't plan meals ahead....<br />
- I am not, and haven't been training for the marathon since February.<br />
- I told multiple people on accident because of a group text incident. This was the result:<br />
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- We were hoping to wait until Mother's Day to announce, but just couldn't do it anymore because of expanding circumferences....I mean circumstances</div>
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- We told some family right away, and we played cards with the others where each ace had one of the ultrasounds pics on it.</div>
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- Simeon went and got me Jimmy John pickles a couple weeks ago because they sounded good...at 11:00 at night...on a night much like today---dreary, windy, rainy, cold. He's the best</div>
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- As each ultrasound showed and still shows such growth, I wonder how anyone can deny that it is life. </div>
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As I am winding down this ever rambling blog post, I remember again my favorite song over the past 2 years--Never Once by Matt Redman. We will have many more battles to face in this world, for sure, but this, my dear friends, is a victory. A HUGE one! </div>
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<span style="background-color: white;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px;">"Scars and struggles on the way</span><br style="border: 0px none; font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px;">But with joy our hearts can say</span><br style="border: 0px none; font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px;">Never once did we ever walk alone</span><br style="border: 0px none; font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px;">Carried by Your constant grace</span><br style="border: 0px none; font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px;">Held within Your perfect peace</span><br style="border: 0px none; font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><span style="font-family: Verdana, Arial; font-size: 13px;">Never once, no, we never walk alone"</span></i></span></div>
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Kristen Bernshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18129420316536610024noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4542900664799635765.post-81907127928776681972014-03-19T13:12:00.002-07:002014-03-19T13:12:28.761-07:00He is...because He is. Lately, I have been SOOO impatient for Spring. The nice weather. The moment there's a ghost of winter and a whisper of spring, which is my way of explaining all of the bright green buds on trees, that haven't quite bloomed yet. I am anxiously awaiting it. As I have been so impatient, I was thinking about the weather roller coaster that comes along with the changing of seasons. Even though I am impatiently awaiting the arrival of my dear friend, Warm Weather, I am okay with snow coming because I <i>know</i>, that spring is coming--spring will come. Just like true love, it may be delayed for a while, but it will arrive.<br /><br />Like all of creation, it is easy to see a spiritual side of things here. I have been thinking about these last few years, about how we should be having hope, how this is not the plan God has designed for us, and numerous truths people have spoken to and over us. I pondered how hard it is to believe that good will come, that better days are ahead, when in the midst of a cold, shadowy winter.<br />
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Why is it so easy to eagerly await the arrival of Spring, even though it may still be snowing for some of the days, yet so difficult to even remotely see the "spring" of our lives? Am I the only one here? The seasons were designed by the Creator. We know how they should go. We know what order they go in. We know what to expect (for the most part). Yet in life, our 'seasons' continue to stay winter. We primarily see the bad...not even looking for the good God wants for us. Shouldn't we eagerly be awaiting the "Spring" God has for our lives, and know without a doubt that it will come---therefore that we should be excited for it?!<br />
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Obviously, this brought my mind to Ecclesiates 3:1-8 "A Time for Everything", and I have decided to revise it for my own personal use. Maybe it's been done before, I don't know. Ultimately the phrase I came up with to add into each "time" was "...because I am." Simply that. Because HE is, there is a time for death, a time for birth. Simply because my Creator designed it as such.<br />
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If my belief system says that God is God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit, then my beliefs say that I must be encouraged. So that's what I am going to do. I am going to mourn in the seasons of cold, miserable, 'winter', yet at the same time KNOW that there will be a 'spring' coming--and eagerly await it.<br /><br />This isn't the most eloquent of writings, not to mention quite repetitive, and fairly muddled. But it makes sense to me. If I can trust that my God knew what He was doing in creation, then I can trust that it is a direct parallel to my life.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19.200000762939453px; text-align: left;">Wrong will be right, when <a class="extiw" href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aslan" style="background-image: none; color: #663366; text-decoration: none;" title="w:Aslan">Aslan</a> comes in sight,</span></i></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19.200000762939453px; text-align: left;">At the sound of his roar, sorrows will be no more</span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19.200000762939453px; text-align: left;">,</span></i></span><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19.200000762939453px; text-align: left;">When he bares his teeth, winter meets its death,</span></i></span><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 13px; line-height: 19.200000762939453px; text-align: left;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><i>And when he shakes his mane, we shall have spring again</i></span><span style="font-family: sans-serif;">.</span></span></blockquote>
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